By Dr. Sandhya Pentareddy & Siyona Varghese
Potty training can start very early in a child’s life. Although it is generally done when the child is between 12 to 24 months, children as young as 3-month olds were trained in the older generations and are being trained now. Please see Elimination Communication. However, keep in mind that training needs to be based on the readiness of the child. And it has to be done without causing stress to the child. With early potty training, results are not achieved within a day but the child gradually learns, reaping the benefits of hygiene from the beginning itself. In the case of Elimination Communication, even though several children may not get fully potty trained until 18 to 24 months, they would have fewer and fewer accidents and cleaner habits right from the get-go. Very early in the game, you can reduce the use of diapers and keep the children healthier. With any method you use, keep in mind that bladder control is typically achieved only between 18 to 30 months of age. Even at three years of age, full bladder control is not to be assumed. It may take up to 5 years to develop complete bladder control. Night time bladder control happens even much later than day-time. So, be understanding towards the child and keep the training stress free.
Some may decide to potty train a child later in the toddler-hood, which is also fine. Here are some proven strategies for potty training your toddler:
Start with a Positive Attitude and Patience: The first and foremost thing to keep in mind while potty training your child is to have a positive attitude and a lot of patience. Potty training can be stressful for both the parent and the child, so it’s important to keep a calm and positive attitude to avoid making the child feel pressured, ashamed or overwhelmed. Remember that every child is different and some may take longer than others to get the hang of it.
Introduce the Concept of Using the Potty Early On: Introducing the concept of using the potty early on can be helpful in making the process smoother. You can start by reading books about potty training or watching videos that explain how it works. Encourage your child to ask questions and let him know that using the potty is a normal and important part of growing up. In some cultures, the parent of the same gender sits on the commode and tells the child that they use it when they need to “go”. Children often model adult behaviour so this can motivate a child to try using a potty. You can be fully clothed, while you explain to your child.
Help your child communicate: Observe your child and learn the cues that your child displays when he wants to pee or poop. You may notice a grimace, a funny face or some unique cue. If you are child is saying a few words, you can teach him to say simple words with sounds he can make like pee/susu, poop/kaka when the nature call comes. Some parents teach hand gestures or sign language too. You can use these words or signs at the time your child is showing the cues, so they understand what the words and signs mean.
Guide your child: When you notice the cues, you can take your child to the potty or wash room gently, by holding his hand. Guide him to a child potty or an adult potty with a child-potty-seat, be with the child and help him with the process. Teach all the good habits you want to teach your child including washing hands. If your child is very young, keeping them on the potty for minutes is a challenge. So, find ways to keep him engaged with your chatter, story-telling, or reading a book. You can even choose to read a good story book that illustrates using a potty for children.
Keep a portable potty handy: There are good plastic portable potties available, which can be used from the age a child can sit till 40 months. From the age of 12 months onward, a child may use the big commodes with a child-potty-seat on top. There are potty seats with a couple of steps too, that help the child climb and sit. While training a young child who is unable to hold the pee/poop for long enough to go to the washroom, it is a good idea to keep a portable potty handy in the area where your child plays at home. This way, he can quickly go and use the potty. This is a great tool to train a young child before he can start using the washroom. This potty can be shifted to the washroom later and then you can progress to using the big commode with a potty seat. Some parents directly use the big commode to make it a one-stop training but the method is up to you based on the child’s readiness and convenience.
Use Positive Reinforcement: Positive reinforcement can be a powerful tool in potty training your child. Praise your child every time he successfully use the potty, even if it’s just a small accomplishment. This can help build his confidence and motivate him to continue using the potty. You can also use stickers or a reward chart to track his progress and give him a visual representation of his achievements.
Follow a Consistent Routine: Following a consistent routine can be helpful in establishing good potty habits for your child. Set specific times for using the potty, such as after meals, before naps and before bedtime. Stick to the routine as much as possible, even on weekends or when you’re away from home. This can help your child get into the habit of using the potty regularly and reduce the likelihood of accidents.
Be Prepared for Accidents: Accidents are a natural part of the potty training process, so it’s important to be prepared for them. Have extra clothes and wipes on hand in case of accidents and try not to get upset or angry when they occur. Do not shout or punish the kid for accidents. Instead, calmly clean up the mess and remind your child that accidents happen, but they can try again next time.
In conclusion, potty training can be a challenging but a rewarding experience. It requires patience, consistency and a positive attitude. By introducing the concept of using the potty early on, using positive reinforcement, following a consistent routine and being prepared for accidents, you can help your child successfully master this important milestone in his development. Remember that every child is different, and there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to potty training. With persistence and a little bit of creativity, you’ll find the strategies that work best for your child and your family.
This article refers to the toilet training for day-time needs. Note that children have smaller bladders so may not stop peeing at night until much later, which is called bed-wetting. Your child may grow out of bed-wetting anywhere between 3 to 7 years of age.
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